MSS040 Two ways to transform your perspective of your capabilities.

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MSS #040: Two ways to transform your perspective of your capabilities.

14 October 23

MSS #040: How to change how you feel about your abilities and achievements.

14 Oct, 2023

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Do you struggle with self-confidence? Do you doubt your abilities and achievements?

You're not alone. Many professionals face this challenge every day or from time to time. But there’s two simple ways to overcome it.

If your feeling low or need a confidence boost, here are two simple routes to getting to a better more realistic view.

Let’s go for it, now.

Do this!

It’s simple, but powerful and realistic.

1. Create a list of past achievements.

2. Keep a daily list of progress you have made.

Point 2 needs to be an ongoing weekly habit, as this habit builds impact over time and provides a balanced view of progress over time. Issues normally arise when we view one or more blips and interpret this as our new normal. Which is frankly rubbish – but we need a simple tool to convince us.


Here’s how.

1. Create past achievements list.

Find a safe place to sit, be calm and focus.

Get into a relaxed state.

Let your mind wander over your past.

Bring to mind all that you have done.

  • Who you have met.

  • Things you have achieved.

  • People and businesses you have helped. 

Get a pen and a small book, with lined pages. A notepad or small book you can keep.

Start writing all the things you have,

  • Achieved

  • Learned from

  • Accomplished

  • You are proud of

  • You have overcome

Keep writing, keep exploring your life

  • Go way back.

  • Consider all your roles in life - work, sibling, partner, parent, friend etc.

Keep this book / notepad.

Reflect on it often – daily is best if you’re in a rough patch, weekly if not.

Use it as proof of your achievements.

Keep adding to it over time.


2. Keep a daily list of progress you have made.

  • Make this a daily habit, same time, same place.

  • Record your progress that day.

  • Simple bullet points.

Then at the end of the week, same time, same place

  • Reflect on your progress list.

  • Enjoy the sense of accomplishment.

  • Take the highlights - add them to your master list, from 1. 

This way you get a balanced view.

You can “see” and relive your progress over time, it’s there written down.

Dip into it when you need to remind yourself of how far you have come.


What will this do for you?

  • Gives you increased resilience.

  • Give you PROOF of your value and self-worth.

  • In tough times you have a list to contradict poor self-talk.

  • Focus your mind on looking for more of what you are good at.

This might seem really simple – that’s because it is. But it is also powerful.

Give it a try, start today.


Quick recap.

  • When we view a few dips in isolation we can convince ourselves this is a longer term pattern.

  • Sit down and create a master list of all that you have achieved, learnt and how you have grown.

  • Each day write a few bullet points about the progress you have made, in a different book.

  • At the end of the week review your progress book, enjoy the progress you have made.

  • At the end of the week, take some highlights from the week and add it to your master list.

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That's it for this week. Thanks for reading, really hope this helped. Contact me if you think I can help you further at [email protected].

Happy thinking.